Product Description The two bestselling phenomenons now together in one timeless, definitive edition. In their #1 New York Times bestseller, The Rules, Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider shared their time-tested techniques for finding the man of your dreams. Controversial and effective, these 35 rules changed millions of women's lives all over the world. In their sensational sequel, The Rules II, the authors showed readers how they could follow The Rules in even the most difficult situations. A simple set of dos and don'ts, The Rules will lead you where you want to be: in a healthy, committed relationship. It recognizes that men are either attracted to you or not-and that they want a challenge, not an easy victory. Although they sound old-fashioned and tough, The Rules will bring out the best in you and the men you date. The goals? Marriage, in the shortest time possible, to a man you love, who loves you even more than you love him. Whether you're eighteen or eighty, a beauty queen or a woman with ordinary looks, The Rules will work for you.
Old-Fashioned? Maybe...but they work! November 17, 2008 A young lady I know recently told me that her boyfriend broke up with her.Actually, he ordered her to MOVE OUT asap of the place they shared. I was sympathetic, but not at all surprised.Why?....Read on...First of all, she had been living with him for many years, with no ring, no marriage,ACTUALLY....no TALK of marriage,at all!In addition to this, he never gives her gifts at Christmas, her birthday,or Valentine's day, despite the fact that he is financially comfortable.He never seemed to do anything to make her feel special.She mentioned to me a year ago,how bad she feels that she never has ever received flowers from him...EVER! The litany could go on here,but I think you can put 2 and 2 together...You are right! She broke The Rules! If she applied some of the Rules right from day one with this man, either A, he would have treated her like a precious jewel, OR B, she may have realized he was not for her, and moved on, not wasting YEARS of her life, waiting for him to "change". I do realize that folks will think some of this stuff is outdated, but truth be told...Men and Women ARE NOT ALIKE!!!! Act like "one of the guys",and he will treat you as such.Settle for scraps, and scraps you will get. The Rules shows us how to weed out the wrong men,and choose the Right Man. I myself did The Rules, and have a husband who treats ne like a Queen, and OH....I get flowers for special occasions,as well as for "just because". I remember my mom "schooling" me in this stuff many years ago, but I admit I slipped-up alot here and there, because I felt it was "the 80's" now,and I needed to be more "available,etc." BIG MISTAKE!!! After years of foolishness, and much pain, I bought these books, applied the "teachings", and married a swell guy. They may sound like something our great-grandmothers would have said, but think about it.....The divorce rate was almost nonexistant in those days...Why? Ladies of the era valued themselves, and their future,and had a sense of pride! They certainly were not picking up the check for dinner,or meeting half way for dates! Just food for thought......
hahahaha November 13, 2008 0 out of 1 found this review helpful
First, I want to start by saying my college writing class about HYPOCRISY is analyzing this text! If that does not give some hint as to the ridiculous nature of this book, I do not know what does. I will not explain all (because there are numerous) ways in which this text is ridiculous and hypocritical, but I will state a few. One of the funnier points I read today was when the text states, "there's a big difference between being mysterious and being deceptive". In the next paragraph they tell the reader to respond with, "I really haven't thought about it", if a man asks why your not married. Obviously you have thought about getting married if you bought this book, that is the whole point, isn't it? So, your saying that your not thinking about marriage even though you clearly are. But, didn't they just say don't be deceptive?
One of my other favorite parts is about how the books stress independence, females shouldn't rely on men. However, if we are counting on them to make all of the moves, even initiating the first conversation, then we are dependent. We are dependent on their actions and advances to get into a relationship. My favorite quote dealing with independence is, "instead, he becomes slightly jealous when she does her won thing". Personally, I think independence means that each partner enjoys doing things with and without the other. While they may enjoy a boys night out, I similarly want a girls night out. However, with the rules this independence is bad. I would feel extremely frustrated if I felt I couldn't be independent because every time I go out with friends my boyfriend/husband gets jealous. Also, while the book claims men like independent woman more, then why would the be jealous if a woman tries to be independent? Wouldn't it be a turn on or something? Also, I really don't want my boyfriend/husband to be so clingy that if I try to do something on my own he becomes distressed, because if that's true then the relationship definitely isn't going to work out.
Those are just some of my opinions. While there are many other reasons why this book is complete ridiculousness, I think I will stop there and let all the "intelligent" women ask themselves if they really are acting as intelligently as they think. And for the people considering this book, please don't be fooled and actually think about what the book is saying. Of course, I would never discourage a woman from buying the book for a good laugh, because it did put a smile on my face more than once.
Relating to Others With Self-Esteem November 12, 2008 This was probably the third time I read the original Rules and perhaps the second time that I read Rules II. Both parts of this book were worth a repeat.
Those who ribbed (and sometimes lampooned) the Rules did not seem to get the real point of it. This is not about strictly adhering to a list of items. It is about getting your own life so that you are not pre-occupied with men. It is about giving men limited priority so that you are not at their beck and call, which too often brings out the worst in them anyway.
If you cultivate appropriate self-esteem and your own interests, you will naturally live out the rules with having to make a deliberate effort to do so.
As you gain a better understanding of the male-female dynamic, your relationships with ALL men will improve, including family members, business associates, etc.
I appreciate the ground-breaking role that the original Rules played. It seemed to serve as a springboard from which other quality books were published that took the Rules dynamics even deeper.
This should be required reading for all females that are of an appropriate age.
What the book taught me....... November 6, 2008 I bought this book from a book store under the recommendation of a close friend, and I absolutely love it. I call it a love bible, and it has pretty much everything that you need to know about dating and men. The reason that it's called "time tested" is because it is the experiences of thousands and thousands of women over maybe a few centuries. Technology and society are evolving, but men are still men, and women are still women. After finishing reading the book shortly, some guys showed their interests in me. And guess what, I did not spot them or respond correctly although I've read the book. So I found out that I've always been attracted to the wrong type of men since I was 17. The thing is that when we are in a particular situation, we are very likely not able to analyze what's right and what's wrong; on the other hand, we might be able to tell our girlfriends that their boyfriends are cheating on them. So the best way to weed out the wrong men for you is to read the book and join a rules support group at the same time. Or talk to your girlfriends who believe in the rules. If you can't find either a girlfriend or a support group, then talk to your mother or grandmother. We might not like what they think or what they say at the moment, but they always turn out to be right 99% of the time. So most of all, I think this book is a must have for every woman. It does not tell you to be the person that you are not or to make things happen; instead, it teaches you self-respect and find who's the one for you! So overall, I give the book a five star rating!!! It is worth a lot more than the cost! Go and get a copy!!!
The Rules October 23, 2008 I just got out of a relationship that wasn't going anywhere after 5 years. A friend at work let me borrow her "Rule Book" and I now have a different perspective towards dating again. I believe in it so much that I just ordered "ALL THE RULES'. Its all about getting back to OLD SCHOOL. I LOVE THIS BOOK
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