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Avg. Customer Rating:(based on 7 reviews) Sales Rank: 308983 Category: Book
Author:Gary R. Brooks Publisher:Jossey-Bass Studio:Jossey-Bass Manufacturer:Jossey-Bass Label:Jossey-Bass Languages: English (Original Language), English (Unknown), English (Published) Media: Hardcover Edition: 1st Number Of Items: 1 Pages: 272 Shipping Weight (lbs): 1.2 Dimensions (in): 9.4 x 6.1 x 0.9
Product Description This candid analysis shows how boys are brought up to both depAnd on and yet fear the perceived power they think women hold over them and, most importantly, how this prevents true emotional intimacy between men and women. Learn from their inspiring and instructive stories.
A great, honest book! July 29, 2007 1 out of 1 found this review helpful
This book is THE book to read for men who feel like there's something wrong with the way the society defines and evaluates their sexuality and for women who think that there's something wrong with how men perceive (objectify) women.
Brooks describes how most men learn to express their sexuality and says that the outcome is very bad and harmful for both men and women. He explains how women are perceived by men (as sexual objects) and why it is this way (what is happening in the male psyche and what are the psychological reasons). This book talks about the objectification of women and says that it is a very widespread male sexual pathology. It is so widespread that we almost don't see it, but it has a profound effect on our relationships with men and their ability to experience intimacy and sexual pleasure. Brooks gives some advice how to overcome the syndrome, but he leaves the specifics for individuals to come up with - because the details vary based on the different causes.
This is an honest account on male sexuality from a man's perspective - very rare find. I highly recommend it even for those who just want to understand how the male-female sexual relations are taught to men in our culture.
Just Not Enough October 27, 2005 4 out of 7 found this review helpful
Yes, it gives us an idea about what is happening to society, unfortunately it gives only a very brief section on how to overcome it. I read the book and then gave it to my husband to read. It's not well written, spends a lot of time ranking on society and very little time helping someone find their way out of it. It also suggests repeatedly that the majority of people have this syndrome. I believe the majority of people are affected by the stress society places on sexuality, but most people do not suffer the obsessive addiction my husband does. Unfortunately the book has made him believe that he is not out of the normal and hasn't given him what he needs to understand that he IS out of the norm and that it's ruining our lives.
I wish everyone knew this stuff November 30, 2004 6 out of 8 found this review helpful
This is such an important 'whistleblowing book' that shines a light on so many assumtions in our world about males views of women. Women know it through being labelled and treated unhappily as objects. But now importantly this book shows how the suffering is there for men too. This blows assumptions that 'men are just like that' or that it flows from a biological imprint that men are helpless too. This should form a fundamental ingredient in 'male liberation' so that men can see how they compromise their own chance of intimacy by their training. This them gives an opportunity for REAL person to person relating rather than 'man pursuing fantasy'. The only reason I didn't give it a '5' was that I would have liked more detailsed 'what to do about it' suggestions. There are some suggestions there but a lot relies on referring men to men's groups. Don't let this deter you from reading the full implications and extent of this pattern as it's an important wake-up call. However as a relationship specialist who deals with men who have come to me for struggles with relating to women due to this very problem (e.g. losing sexual attraction for otherwise terrific partners who werent physically perfect in some way), I for one would really have liked some clear direction for helping men deal with this.
The Other Side of the Story February 3, 2002 20 out of 26 found this review helpful
Finally a man who can see the dangers and manipulation of pornography. I am glad that the other side of the story is being told as porn seems to be filtering into all aspects of our lives. Men are conditioned to look at women as sex objects from an early age. I do not see how anyone can argue that this does not have an impact on their views (especially in relation to women). Men are taught to look at numerous women - one is never enough - women who are naked and ready for them. Plus with airbrushing and computerization the pictures are not close to reality furthur adding fuel to the fire by reducing womeans self esteem to the very core - by judging us solely on how we look naked. Another area of concern is the number of women willing to deform and distort there bodies (usually with excessively large implants) and how this is glamourized in our society. Pornography is damaging to all members of society not just women as the book explains. Its time women and men were educated on the dangers of pornography. A great first step is to read this book.
The book helped me, it has some notable drawbacks April 19, 2001 35 out of 40 found this review helpful
I found this book both helpful, yet at times it made assertions (generalizations of certain people) that were unsubstantiated.
His development of what he defines as the "centerfld syndrome" was very enlightening for me. I liked the detailed group therapy sessions (he changed subjects names) where he clearly carried the burden of proof (in my eyes) for what comprises the centerfld syndrome - objectification, trophyism, etc. My wife and I read this portion and it helped me to uncover and debunk my own flawed thinking.
His narrow characterizations (on page 74) of anyone who is believes in scripture - that "Such people will have no use for this book" - he clearly shows his lack of judgment and a distinct bias against anyone with a faith in scripture. Not everyone who believes scripture fits his cookie-cutter fallacy of thinking. His ignorant statements to such people can quickly turn off a large population of people who (really need help and) could actually find help through his book if he would simply keep his unfounded opinions of religious people to himself.
I still found his very book helpful. It helped me to see women (and particularly my wife) in a different light and to see a little deeper into the root system of this problem.
There are portions of his book that helped me to see the flaws in my patterns of thinking. This has helped me find some freedom and has helped my relationship with my wife to a degree.
I really wish he had spent more time at the end developing the topics that were supposed to help a person find freedom in the last chapter "Overcoming the centerfld syndrome". I wish he would have spent more time on pesonal change rather than changing culture. The areas for personal change were very under-developed. I was eager to find more information on that. It was really disappointing. I read this book to help me to change and to enhance my marriage. I have more power over changing my own life and marriage (with God's grace) than I do an ENTIRE society.
He could have moved much or all of the descriptive content of cultural change to the middle of the book describing and supporting the tenants of the centerfld syndrome.
The best part of the book is where he develops the tenants of the centerfld syndrome. He develops this area masterfully.
I will still keep this book on my shelf, I just know what parts were helpful and which ones were half-baked.
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